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Jeffrey Smith's avatar

I think you've hit the nail on this one. This phrase especially, "If there’s a name for it, it’s not your fault. If it’s not your fault, you don’t have to overcome it. If you choose to overcome it, it’s evidence that you’re in possession of a superior will. No one loses." It's a convenient excuse, really, and a way to elicit some level of sympathy out of the challenges that we all face. At the same time, we all have stuff to overcome and stories to tell about our journeys. Some of our stories--and our storytellers--are simply more interesting than others.

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Tony Russo's avatar

That’s perfect.

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Walter Curran's avatar

Good morning, Tony.

I am in sync with you insofar as people finding new names for the same old issues. By finding new names, they think, or have been brainwashed into thinking, they can now find new "solutions" to things they are simply too lazy or too incompetent to properly address. Everything is over complicated and there's a metaphorical pill for everything now. What's missing is the almost extinct "common sense" and intestinal fortitude. As I get older and my supply of patience shrinks, my standard response has become: "It's life. Suck it up!"

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Tony Russo's avatar

Right? It’s really hard sometimes to remember that there’s a difference between people who say they are struggling and people who actually are.

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Nikki the Death Doula's avatar

Don't even get me started on the BS platitudes around grief and death. Next person who utters "It was all in god's plan"...... *rage*

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Tony Russo's avatar

Yeah. I think generally it's shorthand for, "I'm not comfortable being real, but I want to be comforting."

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Nikki the Death Doula's avatar

100%

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